Hidden Bedroom Partners

There is a dangerous practice creeping into the modern bedroom. Millions of couples are having sex when they really want and need something else: affection, intimacy, reassurance, revenge, escape from boredom or discharge of anger. The authors have coined the term "non-sexual" sex to describe this practice of using sex as a vehicle to express or satisfy other emotional needs. The problem is, sex can never fully meet non-sexual needs. Couples, unaware that they are using sex in this way, are left feeling frustrated, unfulfilled or worried that something is wrong or missing in their sex lives. This volume guides readers who want to discover "sexual sex" - intense, pleasurable sex free of hidden emotional needs. Each chapter describes an emotional need, its whys, wherefores and deleterious effects. Exercises, homework assignment, preventive measures and other solutions are suggested for correcting the problem of contaminating sexual intimacy with these camouflaged emotional needs.