It Really Is That Complicated

Chas Rawlings's It Really Is That Complicated is an often personal, indeed intimate, and sometimes hilarious ride from start to finish through the byways
and mazes of men's and women's relationships. He guides through the fits and starts-some of the latter false starts-that characterize the dating game,
especially with modern-day dating services. He lays out what he calls the horrors of marriage in the degeneration of romance and eroticism into the battle
of the sexes in more mundane but often deal-breaking power struggles over control, money, and property. He elaborates on Tolstoy's notion that even this
supposedly most sanctified of unions is a form of prostitution-women dispensing sex in return for material gain and security. At the same time, he asks
good old Freud's notorious question "My God, what does woman want," since so many of them flee the very rewards they desire along with the generous, often
attractive, and accomplished guys who proffer them. He takes us into what in Victorian times was dubbed "My Secret Life," the alleyways of escorts who
offer up not only sex but also the companionship and even the no-strings intimacy men crave. Well, for a while at least-until the courtesan gets conflicted
and crazy herself. And, despite all of this mayhem, Dr. Rawlings urges us all, men and women, to take risks and hurl ourselves into the fray, implicitly
asserting that it is better to "have loved and lost than never to have loved" ... and lived.

"Good fun, a great read, and edifying to boot!"

John Munder Ross, PhD

Author, The Sadomasochism of Everyday Life

Coauthor of Tales of Love, Sex and Danger