It's on Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life

From an existential psychotherapist, USA Today columnist, and Instagram's popular "Millennial Therapist," comes a guide to identifying self-loss—one of our greatest unspoken human sufferings, that feeling of being estranged or disconnected from your true Self—so we can answer the most essential question: “Who am I?”

So many of us feel lonely, unfulfilled, or trapped—in our roles and relationships, in cycles of self-sabotage and wrong decisions, by our toxic patterns and misguided attempts to feel happy—or to feel something. Many of us struggle to like the person we see in the mirror. According to Sara Kuburic, it doesn’t have to be so difficult. Really.

Instead of pushing harder or running faster, the secret lies in taking full responsibility for the choices and actions that create our reality. It’s about slowing down, cutting through the clutter of demands and expectation, and finally taking ownership of this person we call our “Self.”

Now, Kuburic unpacks “self-loss,” giving us new vocabulary to understand our unarticulated experience, and offers tools she’s used for years to help her clients recover. Self-loss becomes apparent when we feel the pain and emptiness from performing or observing life, rather than living it. Guiding us through the process of self-reflection, acceptance, and discovery, Kuburic proves that we can: 

· experience but not feel overpowered by our emotions
· establish a healthy connection to our bodies
· set loving boundaries to define ourselves and heal our relationships
· declutter our physical and mental environments to create space for our true selves to thrive
· find meaning and purpose in a seemingly meaningless world

In this eye-opening and inspiring book, Kuburic shows how we can stop sleepwalking our way through the lives we don’t want and step into our most vibrant, authentic, and meaningful Self.