Love for a Lifetime

Every couple for whom marriage is forever unearths nuggets of wisdom along the way. InLove for a Lifetime: Daily Wisdom and Wit for a Long and Happy Marriage,columnist Mary Hance shares a wealth of golden tips, collected far and wide from young couples just setting out to those whose wedding vows still echo through half a century and more. Here are a few: "Throw the wordfairout the window. In one year of a marriage, one person may need 99 percent of the love, effort, or focus of the other; another year,it may be just the opposite." "What my father always told me when I was planning my wedding: 'You have to want to have a marriage, not just a wedding. Remember thedifference.' " "Learn fast that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence!" "After several years of marriage, there is no way I'm training anotherhusband, so I will just keep the one I have!"