Reclaim, Restore, and Rebuild

Anyone who has been affected by a loved one’s sexual brokenness and desires a healing pathway will greatly benefit from this invaluable book.

—James E. Phelan, LCSW, Psy.D,

psychotherapist and author of The Addictions Recovery Workbook:

101 Practical Exercises for Individuals and Groups

When Christian families hear the announcement “I’m gay” from a loved one, they need immediate direction, reassurance, comfort, and godly wisdom. Nobody is more qualified to provide all four than Carol Wagstaff, who’s been serving such families for decades now.

—Joe Dallas, speaker; author of When Homosexuality Hits Home,

The Gay Gospel: How Pro-Gay Advocates Misread the Bible,

Speaking of Homosexuality: Discussing the Issues with Kindness and Clarity,

 and four other books on sexual brokenness;

co-editor of The Complete Christian Guide to Homosexuality

In this interactive book, Carol helps readers walk alongside [Nehemiah] in order to see ways to cope with—and even conquer—some of life’s most heartbreaking trials, particularly the trials family members and friends face with a homosexual or transgender loved one.

—Denise Shick, executive director, Living Stones Ministries and Help 4 Families;

author of My Daddy’s Secret and Understanding Gender Confusion: A Faith-Based Perspective

If sexual brokenness—homosexuality or transgenderism—has touched your family, you’re on a painful and challenging journey. But you’re not alone.

            Although Nehemiah lived more than two thousand years ago, he would have understood what you’re going through. He dealt with brokenness, weakness, and powerlessness in the face of his circumstances. His heart was broken over unfulfilled dreams. He is a role model for the challenges you face because he endured so much, yet he obeyed God and fulfilled God’s purposes for his life. His life reminds us that we often do not choose the circumstances God allows in our lives, but we can learn to make the best of them. 

            As you study portions of Nehemiah and the armor of God, you’ll learn to apply principles from these passages to help you reclaim and rebuild your relationship with a sexually broken family member or friend.