Respect Yourself: Becoming the Woman God Made You to Be

One author once said: It seems to me that many women can't seem to get a grip on the power that they possess, and forever see themselves as being in a position whereby they have to compete and prove their worth - rather than being in a position where they already understand their worth... Dr. Dennis Neder So many women fail to acknowledge their worth and respect themselves. Too many women are looking for acceptance, love and respect without first understanding that you have to accept, love and respect yourself before you can get the type of acceptance, love and respect you need and deserve. What is it that causes women to fail to see their worth, and fail to see themselves the way God intends for them to? I read a story once about self respect in regards to women that I believe explains what happens. The story said (quote): I believe self-respect is very important to everyone, especially vital for women. It should be the first important quality we should have rather than anything else. When you fail to respect yourself, many behaviors will be like giveaways. The way you talk to yourself and others is an announcement of how you feel about yourself. The way you allow others to talk about you and treat you is another giveaway. Another giveaway is when you believe you don't deserve to be heard or to be spoken to with dignity, which reveals that your self-respect is low. Of course you don't hear yourself say" I don't deserve happiness". But listen to others around you, how do they talk to you, and how do you talk to them. You hear yourself starting statements by saying "I know you don't want to hear this, but...."? or " I am not sure about this, you decide...." You demean your message even before you say a word! Your family, friends, and others will treat you the way you teach them to treat you. If you expect respect and give it in return, that sets up an atmosphere for everything you want. If you are self-disrespecting, that is what others will give you. So when you are not treated with respect, you should do something about it. If someone treats you disrespectfully, you should treat them politely and at the same time explain that you will not stay around for their abusive behavior. So stop self- disrespecting, and doubting yourself, throw these negative thoughts away. Think of what you want, what you expect, and set an example yourself. You will then definitely get respect from others. Law of attraction never fails. YOU ARE THE ONE RESPONSIBLE TO CHANGE OTHERS' VIEW OF YOU. (End quote) Maybe you are reading this and you're saying, "Pastor Hooper, yes, that is me. I need to change how I think of myself and change how others see me. I want that, but how do I get there?" This book is something God inspired me to write to help you get and maintain HIS perspective of you. I pray that this book helps you to fulfill the destiny God has for you.