Thank You For Failing Me: A Memoir

I met my dad for the first time at a funeral when I was 14...

Twenty-two years later, he died.

This book is about everything in between.

As a little girl, I dreamt of one day meeting him. And when I finally did, the impact was greater

than I ever could have imagined.

In my adult life, I entered every room, wondering: Do you see me? I hoped a record label could

provide me with an identity, success, and approval. Then, I assumed my husband could redeem

all my broken and rejected pieces-proving to me, and the world, once and for all, that I was in

fact, loved.

But no one could give me what I was looking for. Perhaps because they were never intended to.

Had they not failed me, I wouldn't have begun to look inward, and stop expecting others to

provide me with a sense of self-worth or identity. I discovered that love had always been mine.

This is how I began to ask a different question: Do I see you?

Miraculously, once this shift occurred in me, my marriage began to heal, and I reconnected with

my dad-once again. But this time, it wasn't about being seen. It was about knowing him in

whatever time we had left.

This book covers a wide range of topics including domestic abuse, abandonment, mental illness, addiction, recovery, suicide, forgiveness, grace, hope, and healing.