The Dance of Anger

"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner who shoes readers how to turn anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. Dr. Lerner teaches readers to identify the true sources of their anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating meaningful and lasting change. When relationships are stuck in too much distance or intensity, people feel that they have "tried everything" and that their attempts to change things only lead to more of the same. Lerner moves readers away from silence and ineffective fighting and blame as she explains how relationship patterns operate and how to change one's own steps in the dance. She is a master at translating complex theory into accessible, engaging, and helpful prose. This book continues to sell in truly astonish