The Silent Scream

Anyone being consumed by their pain and suffering will understand the need to be heard, the need to have their feelings acknowledged and validated, to know that they are not alone in the swirling chaos of their rage, grief and fears, which we mask behind our smile as we make our way through the world. Yet, paradoxically, it seems the hardest thing to do at times; to give voice to our struggles, our feelings, our fleeting moments of madness for fear of being judged, ashamed and embarrassed by our imperfections. And so, we remain trapped in those silent screams, continually feeding our deepest fears about ourselves; that we are not worthy, berating ourselves and internalising our trauma, becoming disconnected and isolated in our experiences.

But when we cannot find a way of telling our story, our story begins to tell us. We develop symptoms, habits- addictions even, behaviours that we don’t understand, the truth of our pain working its way to the surface through any means possible, giving expression to the silent scream inside. Our constricted shame-based sense of who we are keeps us trapped in the cycle of self- sabotaging behaviours which impact both our physical and emotional wellbeing. Our silence only reinforces that shame, inflating the ego which becomes a repressive agency under which we bury our authentic self. But until we can live more consciously, away from the masks and less through the ego, we will never be free from our destructive patterns or our negative self- talk which perpetuates our feelings of unworthiness.

Many of us as children were invisible: forced to conform, blend in, shut down and silenced. We were expected to speak only when spoken to, shamed for being too quiet and too loud. We were chastised when “answering back” or - as was really the case - for daring to express our thoughts and emotions.

We learned that we were not enough, that we needed to change, external judgement and criticism becoming our inner voice; our inner bully. We learned to stuff down the feelings that were too uncomfortable to bear and suppress our true essence and the whispers of our soul.

We grew into wounded adults, self-medicating with food, alcohol, shopping, sex, co-dependent relationships and addiction to numb the pain and our ‘not-enoughness’. We became masters of betrayal, keeping up appearances to hide the depth of our suffering inside. We remain silent, too afraid to be seem as anything less than perfect.

Silence kills

We can change this.

More men and women are ripping off their mask and allowing themselves to be seen, as their beautifully messy perfectly imperfect selves. We’re unlearning old conditioning and finally finding AND setting our voice - our values, our truth, our emotions and whispers of our soul - free.

We’re letting the world know that our voices matter, that WE matter, leaving a greater leg...