The STARS Talk

Check-ins, negotiations, "the talk." People across the relationship continuum have different words for the frequently awkward and occasionally downright embarrassing conversation that foreshadows physical intimacy. For many peoplewhether they're young people discovering themselves or adults trying to shake off the rust on re-entry to the dating scenethese conversations can alienate and leave one feeling adrift. A family medicine physician and former executive director of Sex Positive Portland, Evelin Dacker created the STARS talk as a framework for people regardless of gender, sexuality, relationship style or experience to ensure sexual encounters are safe, consensual, fun and fulfilling for all. Whatever is on your mindreservations with "hookup culture," expressing a shift in gender or sexual identity or discerning your relationship stylethe STARS talk can help you get it off your chest with confidence and compassion.