What Had Happened Was...: How to Build Inner Strength When Your World Crumbles

Various reasons that lead to people feeling inferior and inadequate. In 10 chapters it digs deep into the reasons as to why people feel or believe they are inadequate and/or inferior. It also proposes the solutions and lessons from the author's life and those she has learnt from that will prove invaluable to either yourself or people who you hold dear that are dealing with inferiority."Luyanda steps out of these preconceived notions and chooses to showcase her individuality wherever and however possible, irrespective of the challenges she has faced due to these preconceptions. She is not afraid to go deep within herself to explore her strengths and her weaknesses in order to grow herself, even if it makes her feel vulnerable and out of place." Bradly and Mandy Petrus - Authors of Believe Again"Personally, I believe this book is for every age group; parents can buy this book for their children that are starting school and read for them, to teenagers who are starting to go through some trends of life be positive or negative and the people that are working need to read this book more, because they will get clarity to re-gain the ability to bounce back." Mduduzi Mthanti - Young Minds Academy"Readers do not only gain knowledge of how important it is to reflect as far back at their childhood, to understand their personality traits, but also reflect on their current surroundings, i.e. family, friends etc. to identify the contribution they may have in feeling inferior and inadequate and how they see the world." Mulalo Madula - Economist "Brene Brown speaks of brave leaders as those with the ability to "excavate the unsaid." The strength of this book lies in how Luyanda allows herself to be vulnerable with the reader by going to those places deep within herself and sharing those so openly with us. It will challenge you, as it did me, with thought-provoking content and stories that encourage a different course and propel one to action. Perhaps the most inspiring part of this story, is how the author has been able to transcend her fear as she daily strives to be better. If you find yourself at that place where you say, 'I wish to do a little better today than yesterday, ' then this book provides the insight that lets you know, that this transcendence is available to us all, with deliberate work and commitment. A gift to anyone ready to do the often uncomfortable, yet necessary, work on self!" ZoyaSpeaks - Two-time Southern African Public Speaking Champion, Speaker, Coach and Facilitator"It almost felt like the reader was having a conversation with a wise and long-lost friend and the author was giving back substantial information and breathing belief into the reader, which is profound. It also felt like you were going back to different stages and circumstances in your life, self-reflecting and offering yourself some encouragement, and consequently, offering that to a reader going through something similar." Anna Ngarachu - Dreamer, Writer, Entrepreneur, Economist and Change Maker"Luyanda's willingness to be vulnerable with her readers will go a long way in bringing hope and faith to others who face similar life journeys. Having travelled a similar path myself through challenging family relationships, fighting depression and trying to be perfect for everyone at my own expense, I can encourage readers to really reflect on some of her personal self-reflection questions." Karen Levy Strauss - Distinguished Toastmaster and Learning and Development Professiona