Why Couples Fight

Bestselling author and relationship expert, Mira Kirshenbaum--whose books have sold over a half millions copies--now uncovers the huge but often hidden role power plays in relationships and teaches readers her three-step method for ending their power struggles and finding their way back to love.

How is it that well-intentioned people who genuinely care about each other so often end up in a seriously unsatisfying relationship? This book is the first to identify the process by which this happens. Every couple faces conflict, and every couple tries sweet reason to resolve it. When that fails--and this is the crux of the book--people fall back on using their power. This is instinctive. There are countless power moves people make, mostly without realizing they're doing it. But we as their partner do realize quite well that we feel disempowered and try to re-empower ourselves. And so the endless and endlessly destructive power dynamic takes hold. There is no internal mechanism for most couples to stop it on their own, short of separation. This non-judgmental book is an indispensable guide to help readers to end the destructive power dynamics in their relationship and get back to mutual and loving understanding that brought them together in the first place.