You'Re Not Done Yet

A clear-eyed, optimistic guide for parents with adult children who need help navigating the challenges to launching an independent life.

Times were already tough for young adults looking for ways to start living independent lives after high school and college: rents were up, wages were down, then the Covid-19 pandemic hit and a generation of young people were forced out of classrooms and routines, and back home living with their parents. Now many of those young adults can't figure out how to re-start their lives, and if they are suffering from mental health or addiction issues the challenge is even greater. For parents watching their children struggle, the need to respect their child's independence can clash with a parent's instinct to instruct and support.

In You're Not Done Yet, two leading adolescent mental health experts provide a path to optimistic parenting, combating the frustrating isolation and anxiety many feel when dealing with their twenty-something children. Hibbs and Rostain explain why the times really are unprecedented, and how parents need to change their way of thinking in order to support their children without driving them away. Chapters cover topics such as addressing internal bias on what your child is "supposed" to do, learning how to talk less and listen more, and how to get your child the help they need when addiction and mental illness are factors. Packed with helpful information and step-by-step guides to specific situations, this book will be an invaluable resource for struggling parents and their twentysomething children.