Validation, Sabotage And Freedom

Debt can breed unworthiness. Gambling can breed powerlessness. Wealth can breed freedom, guilt, arrogance and far reaching philanthropy. Money in relationships can lead to deeper connection and deeper fulfillment, or to manipulation, violence and even murder. The dichotomy is even more pronounced at the global level where we both deify and demonize the rich and poor alike. 

It is a complicated subject that weaves its way into our very identities, into our relationships, and our societies. Whether the nature and effect of money is good or bad is entirely dependent on your personal relationship with it. Over the course of this book, we will be exploring more about the nature and effect of money from all of these perspectives. Throughout these discussions, I will call out important questions for you to answer. I want to help you explore and understand your relationship with money, and evolve that relationship to a place where your money works for you in a positive way, offering freedom, fulfillment, growth, deeper relationships, and greater good.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Validation, Sabotage, and Freedom 

Money Baggage 

The Nature And Effect Of Money

PART I

THE PERSONAL SIDE OF MONEY

Money Reflects Emotional Value 

Money Is An Extension Of Ourselves 

Money Reflects How We See Ourselves 

Being Debt Free 

Financial Contentment 

Financial Independence

YOUR Magic Number

The Real You 

Showing It Off Versus Hiding It 

Large Scale Wealth

The Dangers Of Comparison 

More Money, More Problems 

Wealth Guilt And Giving It All Away 

PART II

MONEY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Anger, Violence and Murder 

Manipulation and Extortion 

Control and Oppression 

Forcing Attachment 

Social Spend Pressure 

Unpacking The Budget Baggage

Spend Plans Versus Budgets And Thog The Destroyer 

The Spendthrift Versus The Free Spirit 

Letting Go Of Past Financial Relationship Baggage 

Getting On The Same Page 

The Courage To Get Weird

The Spend Plan As A Contract 

Building Your Relationship As You Build Your Spend Plan 

Dreaming And Saving 

Your Magic Number For Financial Independence 

Financial Fatigue And Falling Off The Wagon 

Loosening Up Once You Arrive 

Survivability 

Your Parents' Money

The Chosen Child 

Awkward Conversations With Mom And Dad

Supporting Your Parents Without Going Broke 

Unequal Distributions Among Siblings

Your Children And Your Money

The Typical Parent-Child Financial Journey 

The Value Of Money

Mom And Dad - The Perpetual ATM 

Cutting The Cord